It occurs when an individual feels as though they need to do the same things as people their own age or in their social group to be liked or accepted.
To gain that affinity and respect, some individuals will do things they don't feel they should or things that they might not feel ready for, in order to fit in and be like those around them. This plays out in a variety of situations, from bullying on the school playground to drinking too much in college. The negative peer pressures can make a person feel bad about the things they are doing, even as they continue doing them as a way to feel connected to their peers.
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Drugs and alcohol
Drugs and alcohol are easy to find on both college and high school grounds, and teens might feel the pressure to be "cool" by experimenting with something exotic and daring. . But giving in to peer pressure to consume drugs and alcohol can quickly land a person far in over their head, leading to even worse decisions.
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Stealing
Maybe it happens on a dare—a challenge to "Do this, or you're not one of us." Stealing can have an immediate impact, including strong feelings of remorse once the rush of adrenaline wears off. Over time, guilt, worries about getting caught, and concerns about the possible damage to their reputation are some of the negative thoughts a person may experience after stealing.
questions to ask yourself
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Is this going to lead to healthy habits?
Positive peer pressure can lead someone to do things that are good for them, such as exercise, eat healthy food, or avoid smoking. When these healthy things become a habit, it can often be traced back to instances of positive peer pressure.
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Does this lead to good outcomes for others?
When someone agrees to meet a friend at the gym every morning for exercise, that makes both of them accountable – and healthier in the long run. When a friend insists on taking the keys so nobody drinks and drives, everyone stays safe. Anything pressure that leads to good outcomes for others is a positive thing.
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Does this make me feel good inside?
Being pushed to do something by well-meaning friends should make a person feel good about their decisions, whether it's choosing to study more often or help someone in need.