coming out
It’s easy for sexuality and gender to become awkward secrets, especially if the people around you make assumptions about you. Secrets can be a cause of stress and emotional pain and can make you feel you are being dishonest. However, you shouldn’t feel you have to come out straightway, it’s usually best to wait until you’re ready. Sometimes people decide not to come out to certain people, (particularly if they think that person will react negatively) which is ok too. The most important thing is to be comfortable with your identity, and with the people you decide to tell.
‘Coming out (of the closet)’ refers to telling someone else about something that was previously hidden – especially about your sexuality or gender identity. You may have to come out several times – to friends, to family, and maybe to lecturers or work colleagues.
If you’re thinking of coming out, you’ll probably have many worries. But remember, you’re not alone .
how do i offer my friend support?
If your friend isn’t open about their sexuality or gender identity, or they haven’t ‘come out’ to you, there are still things you can do to be supportive. Gay marriage, gay bishops and LGBT+ celebrities always seem to be in the news, so there are many opportunities to casually mention how you are supportive of LGBT+ rights, how being LGBT+ is normal, etc.
If a friend tells you they are LGBT+, the best thing to do is to accept what they say, offer reassurance that it won’t affect your friendship, and be clear that you’ll support them and be there for them.